What do you do during a winter with relentless historic blizzards…snow piled so high, that even New Englanders think it’s crazy? Well, you ski of course. Many stayed indoors waiting for it to pass. Frustrated. Understandably so. I, along with many others, had plenty of damage to my homes from ice dams so the disdain for the record snowfall was justified. However, I’ve had a “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” attitude. Other cliché’s I can use: making lemonade out of lemons, love the one you’re with, when in Rome. Take your choice. You get what I’m saying here. (Check out my jump while wearing a tiara. Talk about facing your fears).

The bifurcated attitude of the skier and the hibernator reminds me of the book, Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson. It’s likely you have read the book, but if you haven’t, take a few minutes for this simple, but poignant message. I read it about 10 years ago and apply it often.

My question to you is, are you Hem or Haw? Haw, while not a natural risk taker and one who prefers the comfort zone, rose above his natural instincts and set out to find cheese. And not only did he find an abundance of cheese, he found new flavors he didn’t know existed. While he enjoyed the cheese and new flavors, he made it a point to keep an eye out so as not to be caught off guard when someone moves the cheese. Haw, being the nice guy he is, goes back for Hem to share the new cheese he found. Hem refuses the cheese. You know how it ends (or begins) from here.

Just because you may have been Hem, who feels victimized, doesn’t mean you can’t be Haw who faces his fears. Not only did Haw find happiness but he takes care not to become complacent.

I challenge you to be honest with yourself. Are you Hem or Haw? If you aren’t happy, who’s fault is it?